Thursday, 6 July 2017

Learn How To Stand For Yourself In Any Situation..


Practice what you will say ahead of time: Practice makes perfect when it comes to standing for yourself. Standing for yourself doesn't mean being a rude dictator. There is definitely a happy medium between aggressiveness and assertiveness but with little practice am sure you can figure out that perfect balance and successfully stand for yourself. It goes for practicing assertiveness ahead of time as well, just like someone cutting in front of you in line for coffee and imagine how you'd deal with the situation. Would you confront the person or let it slide? Figure out what feels right for you and then follow through the next time such a situation arises.

Be deliberate with your request: Here is a situation that many of us have found ourselves in sharing vacant with an unorganized colleagues or people who is a slob. You might have remained silent while growing more aggravated at the situation. It might be tempting to slip into passive aggressive behavior such as angrily cleaning up the mess or making snide comments. Tell the person how you are feeling without being accusatory. Follow up with a simple suggestion that can correct the situation such as if you can take a minute to tidy up your space at night, it would be a big help, so try being deliberate instead.

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Recognize that no one can invalidate you: You are the owner of yourself, so you suppose to be the owner of your feelings and actions. If you seek to invalidate other people's points of view, you are also sabotaging any chance for problem solving or having an open discussion. Your belief, thoughts, emotions and ideas belongs to you and no one else can tell you what you feel or invalidate.

Don't be afraid to say NO: You are going to learn how to say NO when its the right time. Again this is probably another huge issue for some of us and yet saying NO is a life skill worth learning. It can help yo switch up your opinion towards the word from negative to positive. Saying NO isn't rude or stubborn, start practicing it as well and it should be come easier.

And Never you let things go unsaid: Shyness can get the best of you, hope you know? Especially in social situation that may require you to respond quickly.
Remember that you deserve respect: Since there is a very close connection between doormat tendencies, it can help to remind yourself that no one has the right to ignore you, be rude or deny your feelings. Assure yourself that without your consent no one has the authority to invalidate you.

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